Women talk about discovering masturbation and share their cringe-worthy but revelatory tales. For more from our masturbation series, go to: http:///let... From one woman to another, it sounds to me like you are struggling with shame, guilt, and self-condemnation. I did for years as a single woman. My advice to you is this, masturbation is natural and the better alternative to fornicating. Accountability isn’t going to do a thing to curve your sex drive, which at 23 is very strong.